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Three Ways to Hit “Reset” on a Bad Day

mommiedearest reset a bad dayIt’s 10am and your day is not improving. You woke up to last night’s dishes in the sink (don’t you have an agreement that when one of you cooks, the other one cleans?). The kids are whiny and hangry and your partner hasn’t texted you back about that Really Important Thing you texted about three hours ago. You feel frustrated, alone, and ready to scream Mommie Dearest-style that you’ll cut the next person who has the nerve to ask you for something.

Slow down, mama. You don’t have to lose your cool. You can reset this day to move on to happier things AND model for your kids how to deal with stress and disappointment in a healthy and productive way. Win-win!

Here are three of my favorite ways to hit Reset on a bad day:

1. Get outside and into the sunlight. This is a great reset for stressed-out mamas and cooped-up kids alike. Getting into the sun for a little walk gives you crucial Vitamin D, raises your happiness hormones, improves immune system function, and reminds you that you are part of the living world and not just dusty furniture in your living room Island of Isolation. When everything else fails, get outside.

2. Sing out. Instead of yelling at your kids, say it with song. Try a silly operatic trill, or belt out a soulful blues number. “So-faaaaaaaaas! are for booooooooootaaaaaaaaays,” I will sing to my kids in my best R&B diva voice when I’ve asked too many times for the monkeys to stop jumping and I feel my yell coming on. Singing to them this way confuses them into stopping what they are doing (jumping on my couch like wild people), and it signals my brain that we’re not in a crisis situation that will only be solved if I commence screaming in 5-4-3… (My brain was raised by parents who screamed. Left to its own devices it would make some silly, misguided decisions sometimes.)

And if you’ve already started yelling and the day is looking grim, it’s time to call in the big guns:

3. Paging Captain Do-over! This is a code word my kids and I use when things have gotten out of hand, voices and words are unkind, and we need to get back to the present moment and remember that we actually like each other. “Captain Do-over!” we yell and almost immediately we stop grouching and fall into a hug. It takes a couple of seconds to feel that calm, safe, feeling of oxytocin flooding our system (mmmm, sweet bonding hormone we get from hugging and smelling kid heads)  and then we can start the process of repair. For the yelling mama, this is a great time to apologize and start over. I’ll say, “I’m sorry I spoke so rudely to you. I was feeling stressed out. What I meant to say was that sofas are for booties and I’d like you to sit quietly and read for a few minutes. Will you please do that? And then we can go outside and run around and get our energy out? Great! I love you. I’m sorry I yelled. You are so special to me.”

They will often start bouncing again, or doing some other annoying thing until we get dressed and out the door to get some sun and start our day. But at least we have all calmed down and I’ve taken responsibility for stopping the bad day before it gets too out of hand. When things are calm and the mood is good, I’m better able to deal with the little stresses: the whining kids, the non-responsive husband, the pile of dishes. They still annoy me but they don’t have to hijack my day– or my kids’.

Want more support dealing with the stress and isolation of motherhood? Get in touch, mama!

Kirsten Quint Fairbanks is health coach and holistic living expert who loves offering real-world holistic coaching for mamas who want to consciously cultivate big lives that get them totally fired up.  Kirsten lives happily, works gratefully, dances inexpertly, paints badly, cooks traditionally, and rocks a tiny homeschool in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She believes that connection can change your life.   Read more about her here.

 

Banana Coconut Flour Muffins

banana muffin
What’s not to love about muffins? These ones are pretty-nearly foolproof, and I’m by no means an expert baker. So I make a batch of these nearly every week. They are  full of protein and fiber, and their only sugar comes from bananas and raisins. My kids eat them for breakfast and dessert, the adults have them as snacks, and I serve them when people come ’round for tea. I hope you like them.
Coconut Flour Banana Raisin Muffins (grain-free, dairy-free, gluten-free, nut-free and no added sugar)

 

Ingredients:

  • 4 ripe bananas, mashed (about 1 cup)
  • 4-6 large organic eggs
  • 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
  • 2/3  cup coconut oil, melted
  • 2/3 cup coconut flour
  • 1 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/2 teaspoon sea salt
  •  a few dashes of ground cinnamon
  • a handful of raisins, optional

Make them:

  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
  2. Using 2 standard muffin tins line 18 cups with paper cupcake liners. (I’m partial to cheetah print lately.)
  3. Melt coconut oil in a small saucepan on the stove, over low-med heat.
  4. Mash bananas and eggs using a hand mixer. Add vanilla, coconut oil and mix.
  5. Add dry ingredients and mix until smooth.
  6. Add raisins and mix in a with a spoon.
  7. Scoop batter into 18 muffin cups and cook 25 minutes or so, until toothpick in the center comes out clean.
  8. Allow muffins to cool before removing from the pan.
  9. Refrigerate in an airtight container for about a week. Freeze in a ziplock bag for longer.

I do some variation on these frequently. Berries, nuts, chocolate chips are all really good in these instead of raisins.

 

Kirsten Quint Fairbanks is health coach and holistic living expert who loves offering real-world wellness coaching for people who want to beat the blues and build self-esteem using nutrition and holistic lifestyle methods. Her popular online seasonal Craving-control Real Food Detox is for anyone who wants their body to feel and look its best. She also offers holistic skincare and coaching  for anyone who is tired of the beauty hype and is ready to have vibrant health and glowing skin from the inside out.  Kirsten lives happily, works gratefully, home-schools secularly, dances inexpertly, paints badly, cooks traditionally, and nurses on demand in the San Francisco Bay Area. Read more about her here.

That Wiggle in Your Walk

lipslips(This post was originally published here.)  I love to tell clients that one of my best beauty secrets is gelatin! For a lot of people, this is unthinkable. They don’t know that gelatin doesn’t have to be the junk food it was when my grandma (bless her cotton socks) was molding that day-glo stuff in a box into wiggly, jiggly shape for every holiday of the year. Continue reading