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New Year Self-care Jump Start, Day 25

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Good morning, beauty! Let’s make today fun. Let’s make something today.

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Make something.

Make anything: a comic strip, a still life, an epic poem, a tiny poem, a watercolor postcard, a knitted scarf, a toothpick-and-cork sculpture, a selfie dance video, a Play-Doh tower, a doodle in the margins. Just make something.

Don’t wait to be inspired. Make creativity a part of your everyday today. It doesn’t have to be “good.” Your goal here is to create something and get your creative juices flowing. Just start, and then watch what comes up for you.

Does the idea of creative work scare you? It can feel risky to make something. Many of us feel that our work should be perfect, or that creativity is for someone else. If this is you, it may help to set a timer. Give yourself 5 minutes to start. If you want to continue after that, great! If not, no problem. You aren’t doing this for anyone but you. (The amazing side benefit, though, is that once you start making things, your kids will see you and want in on that action themselves. When they see you having an awesome time and making art or making music, you are modelling for them that your adulthood isn’t just about parenting them. You’re modelling that creativity is important and that it is important that we make space for it in our lives. The other awesome side effect? When they’re making felt s’mores or composing silly punk rock songs with us on the ukulele they don’t have the time or inclination to fight with each other.)

If you try timing and it’s still too scary to try, use a blindfold or close your eyes. Do this so you can focus on the process of making, not the finished product. If you still feel anxious, like making art just isn’t for you, then simply leave today’s suggestion and do something that feels freeing for you. You could go to your living room, crank up the stereo, and dance. Or you might sing in the shower or car. Your movement and your voice are creative muscles too.

Give it time and daily attention and you will find that in you are wells of passion and creativity just waiting to be expressed. There is no right and no wrong way to do it.

What will you make today?

Warmly,
Kirsten

New Year Self-care Jump Start, Day 24

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Good morning, beauty! How did you sleep? Today we further explore relaxation and a saying “no more” to guilt.

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Decompress, guilt-free.

When you’re someone who is interested in personal growth (which you are, or you wouldn’t have signed up for a 30-day course on self-care), there can be a temptation to pile ever more “improving” assignments on yourself. We want growth to happen now. We want positive change to happen yesterday. Little Jay Gatsbys, we are. But we can overexert ourselves, trying to add too much change too soon, only to burn out in a blaze of Chinese take-out, a bottle of wine, and a Real Housewives marathon (or whatever your “hang it” thing is. Mine would be more like Indian take-out, a half bottle of wine, a few cookies and a Mad Men marathon. Whatever floats your own personal kayak.)

My hope is that if you add in time for decompression then you won’t be tempted to look at your self-care as just another task on your to-do list, get stressed out by it, and then give it up. You’ll get to relax a little and enjoy something frivolous for its own sake and not for how it figures into your self-improvement. I also hope that if you schedule some time to devote to vegging out, that you will consciously contain it. An hour of TV of three hours of Netflix, or whatever you choose and can work into your schedule, is very different from an every day routine of TV on first thing in the morning before you even see your family, or sleeping by the phone and checking social media into the wee hours of the night.

What do you think? Please leave a comment below.

Warmly,
Kirsten

New Year Self-care Jump Start, Day 23

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Good morning, beauty! I hope you’ll look forward to today’s suggestion and really enjoy it if you choose to use it.

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Go to bed earlier than usual.

We tried this one on at the beginning of our 30 days together and lots of you reported that it made you feel great for the rest of the week. That extra hour (or two? my gosh, heaven) will go a long way toward helping you maintain a happy, calm mood and concentration, strong energy, immune system function, and it will help you be a happier, more gentle parent.

Try it again tonight if you can, and let us know how you feel in the comments. Have a beautiful day!

Warmly,
Kirsten

Kirsten Quint Fairbanks is health coach and holistic living expert who loves offering real-world holistic coaching for mamas who want to consciously cultivate big lives that get them totally fired up.  Kirsten lives happily, works gratefully, dances inexpertly, paints badly, cooks traditionally, and rocks a tiny homeschool in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She believes that connection can change your life.   Read more about her here.

New Year Self-care Jump Start, Day 22

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Good morning, beauty! A simple idea for today…

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Post it.

You can play this one in a couple of ways. Yes, I like to do the thing you’re expecting, and leave myself a positive affirmation or 12: around the house, the bathroom mirror, above the stove, on the refrigerator, on the front door; on the dashboard, in my wallet, on the palm of my hand.

It’s also fun to leave little love notes to strangers who you’ll never know. I like writing them on the deposit slips at the bank, or slipped into a magazine at the nail salon. I like imagining how a stranger’s face might light up for a minute from the unexpected compliment.

What to write? I like writing things like,

Hello, beautiful!

You are smarter than you think.

The world is better because you’re in it.

Keep trying. You can do anything.

You matter so much.

Smash the patriarchy.

You are loved.

You’re a good mom.

Etc.

It’s a simple thing to do, and kind of silly. But try it and I bet you’ll have a lot of fun. Share in the comments?

Warmly,
Kirsten

Kirsten Quint Fairbanks is health coach and holistic living expert who loves offering real-world holistic coaching for mamas who want to consciously cultivate big lives that get them totally fired up.  Kirsten lives happily, works gratefully, dances inexpertly, paints badly, cooks traditionally, and rocks a tiny homeschool in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She believes that connection can change your life.   Read more about her here.

New Year Self-care Jump Start, Day 21

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Good morning, beauty! Today’s idea may cause a little anxiety in some of you but it doesn’t have to.

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Eat something amazing.

Look, I know it may be hard to just eat something delicious without having a whole mental monologue about it. I get it. We live in this bizarre market culture that simultaneously broadcasts Food Network lifestyle porn 24/7 and then insinuates by describing things like baked goods as ”sinful,” “decadent,” and “naughty”  that we’re weak or evil if we enjoy our food. Go to any Weight Watchers or Jenny Craig location and you are 90% likely to find a bakery next door. It’s a guilt-and-shame business model that is transparent but still, sadly, so effective. This kind of unhealthy relationship to food can do a real number on our psychology. We end up feeling ashamed of one of the most beautiful aspects of being human. We focus on calories and whether we are being “good” or “bad” with our choices, rather than letting our food really nourish and delight us. Not only that, but when we focus on appearance we make ourselves objects for others’ viewing pleasure or displeasure, and stop being the subject of our own story. And not only that, but what madness is it to obsess about calories or “clean” eating when there are people starving all over the world, and plenty going to bed hungry in your very own town tonight and every night?

I call jive on the whole business. Today I want to encourage you to eat something amazing and delicious. I want you to take the time to really experience and enjoy it. For you, amazing and delicious may mean taking thoughtful nibbles of a gorgeous chocolate macaron, slowly and mindfully enjoying a perfect small grass-fed steak, or making and sharing your grandma’s mashed potatoes with butter and lumps. I’m dreaming of a Mexican Coca-cola and a beautiful, bright fruit salad that I haven’t made in a long while (halved grapes, shredded basil leaves, and pineapples and apples cubed small).

Whatever you have, enjoy it completely. No self-judgment, no hiding, no car-eating, no shame. No guilt, unless you stole it from a baby or shoplifted it from the health food store. (I’m not saying you would. I’m saying situations like these are really the only times that call for feeling guilty about eating a foodstuff.) Enjoy it out in the open without hiding behind your phone. When you finish, you may make a mental note about how it made you feel. The judginess and shame around food are wasted energy but awareness about how foods make us feel can be very good information.

What will you love eating today? Why not tell us in the comments?

Warmly,
Kirsten

Kirsten Quint Fairbanks is health coach and holistic living expert who loves offering real-world holistic coaching for mamas who want to consciously cultivate big lives that get them totally fired up.  Kirsten lives happily, works gratefully, dances inexpertly, paints badly, cooks traditionally, and rocks a tiny homeschool in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She believes that connection can change your life.   Read more about her here.